. How Great Teams Happen... To Win: Each individual is dedicated to bringing his/her full potential to the actualization of the team's mission, and to relating with team members in a way that supports their ability to do the same.

2. One key difference between achieving a goal and not achieving it is the level of skill of the people that you have on your side.

3. You bring out the best in another by bringing your best into the relationship.

4. The attitude that you express toward another is an experience that you give to yourself. When you disrespect another you give yourself the attitude of disrespect that you share.

5. No one but you is responsible for how you think of them, feel about them, or speak about them. If I cannot let go of my resentment toward someone, it is not that other person that has to change.

6. Relationships begin falling apart when we begin blaming others for how we react to them. As our relationships fall apart, we lose power. The more people you have on your side, the more support you have to reach your goals.

7. Do not waste energy trying to get someone else to trust you , to like you, to respect you. Live true to your core values and forge relationships with those who appreciate you for that. Let go of those who choose to hold onto a negative attitude toward you.

8. Waste no thought thinking about someone putting you down. When you think of someone putting you down, you are really putting yourself down in your own mind.

9. Think of your reactions to others' actions as a cause rather than as an effect. Consider what you are about to cause by your response.

10. One of the toughest challenges to being a positive team member is to respond appropriately when someone seems to be behaving inappropriately to you. You can do this, though, if you focus on self-examination when you feel tempted to worry about what another is up to.

11. Don't get distracted by too much concern over what others are up to. You do not reap what others sow; you reap what YOU sow.

12. A difficult person comes into your life when it is time for you to grow.

13. Human beings are contagious: your attitude radiates and those around you absorb and re-express it.

14. Holding onto a grudge uses energy you need to meet your challenges with total effectiveness.

15. When another's performance let's you down, it often means that you relied on his weakness to support you. Take it as an educational experience, showing what you can and cannot count on.

16. An encouraging and respectful attitude toward others when they make a mistake helps them to do better, more than reacting with harsh criticism and impatience.

17. Notice how you feel while you think. If you feel anxious, discouraged, or frustrated your thinking reflects that with ideas that reinforce those disturbing feelings. Get yourself back into emotional balance before attempting to evaluate people or circumstances.

18. When you encounter conflict with a team member, take it as a learning opportunity, rather than taking it personally. Every conflict gives you the opportunity to learn how to deal with it.

19. When someone seems difficult to get along with, focus on how you contribute to the problems between you, and look for ways that you can change for better results.

20. See how you create what happens in your relationships to discover how you can change to produce more positive and productive relationships.


Follow this advice and you will have a good team.